Trauma Blocks Love – Love Heals Trauma

There are moments in life when love feels far away.

Not because it left…
But because something painful built a wall around your heart.

When you’ve lived through trauma,
the world can feel like a place you must survive—not belong to.
You learn to stay alert.
You learn to stay guarded.
You learn to keep tenderness out, even when you ache for it.

But here’s the truth you may not have heard in a while:

Love is not gone.
It’s just waiting for you to feel safe enough to let it in again.

How Trauma Teaches the Heart to Close

Trauma isn’t just about what happened.
It’s about what you had to do to keep going.

You might have learned that vulnerability equals danger.
That trust leads to pain.
That it’s safer to numb than to feel.

And so love—once natural and free—starts to feel risky.

Your body may have learned:

• “It’s not safe to get close.”

• “I can’t trust them—or myself.”

• “I’ll be rejected if I show who I really am.”

• “If I feel too much, I might fall apart.”

These aren’t flaws.
They’re protection strategies.
They formed in the absence of safety.

And they make perfect sense—until they begin to hurt more than they help.

Why Love Feels So Far Away

Love asks us to soften.
But trauma taught you to harden.

Love asks us to trust.
But trauma taught you to question everything.

Love asks for presence.
But trauma pulls you into the past.

So it makes sense if love feels confusing… or unreachable.
It makes sense if your nervous system says “no”
even when your soul is whispering “please.”

But love is patient.
Love waits.
And healing invites it back in, little by little.

Love Is a Medicine—Not a Threat

Real love doesn’t push.
It doesn’t demand.
It doesn’t ask you to be someone else.

Real love says:

• “You’re safe here.”

• “You don’t have to do anything to be worthy.”

• “You can open slowly. Gently. In your own time.”

Whether it comes through a trusted partner, a spiritual connection, a friend, or a therapist—
love can begin to soften the edges of your pain.

And even more powerfully…
self-love can begin to restore what trauma once shattered.

How EMDR Helps You Make Room for Love Again

EMDR therapy helps you gently release the weight of the past.
Not by reliving it—but by reprocessing it.

As we work with the memories your system still holds as dangerous,
your body begins to learn something new:

“I’m not there anymore.”
“I’m safe now.”
“It’s okay to feel again.”

And as safety settles into your system,
love can return—not as a rush,
but as a soft presence.
Something that no longer overwhelms…
but holds.

Let Love Back In

If trauma has left you closed off from love—
If your heart feels tired from carrying so much alone—
Know that healing is possible.

Through Boulder EMDR Intensives, we’ll create a space where your nervous system feels held, not hurried.

We’ll help your inner world shift from fear to trust.
From guarded to open.
From numb to alive.

Love Didn’t Leave You—It’s Just Been Waiting

If you’re ready to feel again—safely, gently, and in your own timing—I’m here to support you.

Reach out today to learn how EMDR therapy can help you reconnect with what trauma tried to take away.

You don’t have to keep telling the same story to feel better.
And you don’t have to protect yourself from the very thing that can heal you.

Love is still here.
And you’re still worthy of it.